It's been a long time since I had to meet new people, converse with them, make friends. At the jobs I've had while in the city, there wasn't much time for chit chat so you never really got to know anyone. When I was in the Air Force I was rather good at chit chat, at meeting new people and making friends. But that was something like 3 and a half years ago.
Now I am a stay at home mom and am going to groups, like today's music class. It's small- only 6 kids. It didn't take long for me to realize that some of these women knew each other longer than this class. And since Ranger and I missed the first class, I was feeling a little like I had missed the chance to be in their group. *insert sad music here* But today they invited me and Ranger to their lunch gathering, held at one of their homes.
I haven't felt so awkward in ages. Maybe since high school. I kept wondering if I was rambling on too much, was I asking enough questions about them (and not saying too many "I" statements), was I talking too much about E (though to be fair, I was asked and prompted for more info). Then Ranger, the poor guy, needed some quiet time to eat and was very loud in demanding this need, so I missed out on conversations and such as I fed him inside (we were in the apartment with access to the back yard). *insert sad music here* But when we returned to the group we were included in the conversation as though we hadn't left. After a while I put Ranger down in a little chair thingy and had a nice chat with the other ladies. All I had really missed out on was some of the snacks on hand.
They seem like lovely ladies, and I look forward to next week.
Making friends with new women is harder than dating - because it's supposed to be easy. But it's not. Glad you had success. It took me ten years to find a few really good ones.
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