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Tuesday, April 30, 2013

The incredible invisible mr snail

Some kids have invisible friends.

Ranger, he has an invisible pet snail.

It all started when we stopped at the post office to turn in passport papers for LB (we hope to see Niagara from the Canadian side this summer). I happen to have noticed a group (Pack? Herd? School? Family?) of snails sunning on a wall on a prior trip and was eager to show them to Ranger.

He was as excited as any three year old could be.

We noted that the snails were not a uniform color, and wondered how baby snails looked (fun fact, snails lay eggs!)

I helped him hold his hand still enough to get a snail to crawl up.

He gasped and said, "mommy this is SO awesome!"

Ding! Mommy points for me! Only eleventy billion more until I level up!

He was so taken with these snails that he did not want to go to the playground! While waiting for some snails to "wake up" Ranger found an empty snail shell. Since I was adamant he was not to take any snails home (away from their families! - even though I distinctly remember doing just that as a kid), he was excited I let him take the shell.

Afterward the shell was held as a prized treasure. And every now and then Ranger would announce that the snail was coming out. On the way home he told me the snail wanted ice cream with sprinkles, and could we go to the store to get mr snail some ice cream with sprinkles so mr snail would be happy?

Thankfully mr snail was able to "get some rest" and was available for "play" just before bed. We have a cheap plastic slide that is currently inside (usually on the balcony) and wouldn't you know mr snail wanted to ride with Ranger on the slide. When reminded that the shell was fragile, Ranger put the shell in its own spot on our door storage system.

Even though leaving the doors open would allow a certain little brother access to the train table, Ranger insisted the doors be open so mr snail could watch all the fun.

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

A surprise trip to Roosevelt Island and Tantrum math

Today I surprised Ranger with a subway ride to Roosevelt Island to take the Tram.
He was super excited to ride the subway and did his happy feet dance when we arrived at the Tram waiting area.
He was one happy little boy!

The moment he started doing the happy dance, I felt the chill of foreshadowing.

In denial I suppose, I still had hope. Maybe we could walk along the water, see some boats, and head home before the train got packed for rush hour traffic.

(He was doing this for less than five minutes when some lady concern troll came over to tell me how dangerous it was to let him anywhere near the railing.)

When we lived on Roosevelt Island - and I can't believe we've lived in NYC long enough to make that experience seem a long time ago- the park at the southern tip was not open. I was really wowed by what they've done.

Normally when I give a ten minute warning Ranger listens pretty well when it is time to go. Not today.

Lately I have had more trouble with departing certain locations.

When we went to the zoo, Ranger could not be convinced the rollercoster was not yet finished and threw a fit leaving.

Leaving his grandparent's house has involved bodily carrying him out and wrestling him into his car seat.

In both of those situations I could get him buckled into his carseat and be on our way. Because we took the subway, I had opted to carry LB in the baby carrier and use a backpack for a diaper bag- we were operating sans stroller.

Which means that I couldn't strap Ranger into a seat AND I couldn't carry him. Today I was the mom practically dragging a crying child down the sidewalk. I stopped walking when ever he would try the "dead weight" tactic, but otherwise kept a steady pace to the subway. Once on the F train he quieted to a fake whine cry that was low enough to not bother people.

While we were on our cool down "mommy I need a break from you!" at home I came to the realization that there is tantrum math:

Which lead me to come up with the desire to go/extraction difficulty chart

At this point I think the pictures are there to remind me why the hassle was worth it.

Monday, April 15, 2013

Just Call Me Miss Ann Thrope

Sometimes?

Sometimes I really dislike people.

You know what makes me want to pack up my life and move to the middle of no where?

What really gets my ire up is the people who look at what happened in Boston and immediately want to incite fear (They have a suspect and he is a FOREIGNER!- later proved wrong wrong wrong). The ignorance, the pompous egos, the inability to behave in civil society; the people who are trying to make this into some political stage.

Even a blogger I respected (past tense intentional) made this about the government spending its time taking away guns instead of protecting people from terrorist acts.

It boggles my mind.

Seriously?

Seriously you think an act of cowardice like this could be avoided if no one was talking about weapons?

Some people need to get their heads out of their tuckus.

You know what would be more helpful? If the people hired to figure out the tough stuff we face as a nation pulled on their big boy and girl panties, stopped acting like preteen drama queens, and actually did their jobs. And yes, that means compromises. That means trying to meet in the middle instead of trying to win political points.

There are times when I stumble suddenly into a reft in my world of at least semi sensible people, and find myself looking around wondering just how it is we live in a country full of such willful ignorance and unabashed hate. Usually this sudden view of insensibility comes when I read comments for articles on current events or Facebook posts or YouTube videos or twitter or Reddit.

When this happens I suddenly feel like our country has no possible hope going forward progress wise- there are just too many of these walking, talking, typing bags of thoughtless sound bites.

My heart goes out to Boston. But now I have to tune it all out, because some stupidity always leaks through when you try to stay informed.

If you need me I will be over there playing Bejewled and words with friends or making my sons laugh.

Friday, April 5, 2013

App review: Toca Boca's Tailor

Y'all, I haven't even let Ranger try this one yet. Not because he won't like it- the exact opposite! I have been having run with this app and haven't shared! This is so much better than paper dolls or sticker dolls or even those magnet dress up toys.

My only complaint is that the options for gender neutral or boy accessories (shoes, for ex) are very limited.

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Kindergarten: who started the crazy?

Recently I have been following a conversation in my neighborhood list serve that has occupied a good bit of my available thinking power.

The conversation centers around an article written by the Post about kindergarten standards.
The city has adopted the Common Core standards, which list some advanced skill sets required of kindergarten students.

Link

One of the questions cited in the article is: "Miguel has two shelves. Miguel has six books . . . How many different ways can Miguel put books on the two shelves? Show and tell how you know."

The parents in my neighborhood have pointed out that there are several possibilities. The answer considered correct is 5. But as one parent pointed out, the question does not indicate that both shelves must be used, so 7 could be correct. Another parent chimed in with over 5K- something about fractorials.

At the end of the article a DOE spokesperson says

"These are the types of activities and exercises that students need to work on to acquire the skills they need to be ready for middle school, high school, college and careers.”


They want to make the argument that these standards for kindergarten will determine my son's career options? He is three right now. What if he isn't ready for kindergarten? He has a December birthday- it is possible he might need more time, and that may not even be an available option (I am going to come back to this in a bit).

It has been a long time since I took childhood development, but I question that the kindergarten students can do much more than memorize without true comprehension. Turns out my doubt is not unfounded. Here is an excerpt from a study I found. The bottom line is - focusing rigorously on academics in kindergarten is an idea that has crazy written all over it

Marcy Guddemi, executive director of the Gesell Institute, says despite ramped-up expectations, including overtly academic work in kindergarten, study results reveal remarkable stability around ages at which most children reach cognitive milestones such as being able to count four pennies or draw a circle. For the study, 92 examiners conducted 40-minute one-on-one assessments with 1,287 children ages 3–6 at 56 public and private schools in 23 states.

“People think children are smarter and they are able to do these things earlier than they used to be able to—and they can’t,” says Guddemi. While all children in the study were asked to complete 19 tasks, results echoed previous Gesell findings showing, for example, that a square is in the 4 1/2-year-old repertoire, but a child cannot draw a triangle until 5 1/2. These developmental milestones, Guddemi says, relate directly to what can be expected of children in kindergarten.


Learning vs. Training
For teachers, the study provides some concrete guidance for understanding how child development meshes with student learning. For example, says Guddemi, children must be able to see and understand the oblique line in a triangle to recognize some letters in the alphabet. Until children can draw a triangle they cannot perceive angled lines in, say, the letter “K,” nor can they write it, or recognize it when printed in different fonts, she says.

Similarly, Gesell’s study results show 4-year-olds can count four pennies, making a one-to-one correspondence. But only half at age 4 1/2 respond “four” when asked how many they have all together. This skill, called “conserving” because they must hold the number in their heads, is needed to do addition. By 5 1/2, children can conserve 13 pennies and can count 20 pennies. But they cannot conserve 20 pennies until age 6. If they cannot conserve, says Guddemi, a child memorizes 2 + 3 = 5, but doesn’t realize that 3 + 2 = 5.

What’s tricky, says Guddemi, is that children can be trained to perform tasks (called “splinter skills”), such as writing names or counting. But just because “April” can pen her name doesn’t mean she can perceive letters with oblique angles. “You can train them, but the knowledge and understanding—the true learning—has not happened,” she says. “Our country has this hang up that if the child can perform, that they know.”

Guddemi worries that many kindergarteners are facing work inappropriate to their developmental abilities. For example, Gesell study results, compiled by the non-profit Mid-continent Research for Education and Learning (McREL) in Denver, CO, show that children at age 4 1/2 know and recognize 12 letters (no letter is more popular than another). For a child on the younger side in kindergarten, Guddemi says, the mismatch is jarring: “Day One they are going to be hit with the [entire] alphabet.” Drilling students on the alphabet is a much different strategy for increasing literacy skills than exposing students to vocabulary-rich conversations, she says. (See “Small Kids, Big Words ,” Harvard Education Letter, May/June 2008.)

The perception that “more input is always better,” may be misguided, agrees David Daniel, psychology professor at James Madison University and managing editor of the journal Mind, Brain, and Education. “The four-year-old has a four-year-old brain and a six-year-old has a six-year-old brain. There are certain things connecting in a six-year-old brain that are still being worked on in the four-year-old brain,” he says. Serious academics in kindergarten? “They can be teaching it,” says Daniel, “but the question is: Is the child learning it?”


This is not the only example of a study that has found increasing the requirements for kindergarten to be ineffectual. I am a regular reader of Free Range Kids which posted a blurb about the benefits of rough housing and free play:

Long-term studies by Dr. Rebecca Marcon tracked kids in academic preschools versus play-based preschools. The kids in the academic programs did worse later in elementary school – both their grades and behavior.
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Current brain research shows that roughhousing games increase brain power. All that goofing off and horsing around? It actually strengthens the frontal lobe – an area of the brain vital for impulse control, memory and later academic success. In fact, researchers credit rough play to better learning, flexibility, problem-solving, impulse control, memory, executive function, social and emotional skills, and creativity
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...preparation for school looks nothing like school itself. Roughhousing can be just as important as reading to kids.

Locally there is another bit of academic cluelessness on the part of the powers in charge. New York City is enacting rules that will make it harder to delay your child if he or she is not ready for Kindergarten. So, if Ranger is not ready to start with his year group, the process of getting a waiver to get him delayed entry seems to be quite challenging with slim chance of success.

Who started this craziness?

While looking around for studies on this subject I ran across one example where parents are the ones getting anxious. Education is success and the chance to be one step ahead is one many parents will jump at.

Parents want their children to succeed. No surprise there. In Manhattan there often are interviews and application packets that resemble college entrance applications FOR PRESCHOOL. If you have seen Nursery University, the depiction of the process is unfortunately accurate. And if your child gets in- the price tag is hefty. Parents put themselves through this because space in good schools is limited and space in awesome schools is somewhere between limited and keep dreaming. And who doesn't want their child in the best possible program? We decided to enroll Ranger in a school (the Y) that is not the closest to us- in the morning the commute takes around 35 sometimes as much as 45 minutes. On the way home it is more like 20 minutes. And oh, by the way, I hate driving. But the program has been voted the best in the Queens county so I put aside my dislike for driving and he gets an awesome pre-pre-kindergarten education.

But would I push Ranger in to a situation he wasn't ready for? Not as long as I have a choice in the matter.

The federal government and the standardization tests educators are held to put pressure on every level of schooling and emphasizes that the key to success is education. I agree education leads to more opportunities for success. But the domino effect back into kindergarten is disheartening. I want my sons to enjoy school as much as possible. Making them anxious about learning concepts they are not necessarily biologically ready to learn in the first year of formal schooling isn't going to encourage them to be life long learners.

I haven't found any articles where educators are thrilled about the increased rigor for kindergarteners. I have seen a few who relate the increased standards to increased literacy. This could be true for more reasons than increasing standards. For instance, most areas have pre-kindergarten classes readily available. Some areas have mandatory pre-kindergarten.

Is there another way? Some people might homeschool, but that's not a route I would take despite holding an education degree. Older students might have alternative options allowing them to progress at their own pace (which is sometimes faster than in a regular class where the teacher is trying to teach a subject to the least advanced learner). One blogger I follow has a son who is part time homeschooled and part time in an alternative program- a solution to her son's needs. Maybe we should be thinking outside of the test bubbles.

I don't know what the answer is, but in the last week when I have been Googling this topic, I have come across many articles about why it's bad, and have found almost no mention on why it is good to make kindergarten the new first grade.

Are we really setting up our children for success?

Here is an article that does a decent job of presenting both the "pro" and the "con" side of making kindergarten the new first grade.

More Work, Less Play in Kindergarten By Daniel de Vise May 23, 2007

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Today I was THAT MOM

I was That Mom at the park today. You know, the mom totally ignoring her child's tantrum.

I took the boys to the Queens zoo and fed the goats (briefly) and walked around (briefly). But the ice cream truck parked right outside the zoo with its tingle tingle tingle melody a siren call for all children.

It was cold enough that I didn't mind leaving sooner than expected, even though we saw maybe two animals. It was Ranger's trip really- he has been cooped up at home with a general strain of crud that resulted in an ear infection. So we grabbed ice cream from the truck. Perhaps I shouldn't have been surprised that Ranger ate something close to two bites; it was so cold his usual pick of ice creams (Sponge Bob) which usually starts to melt instantly was solid as a rock.

I certainly was not surprised, and had come prepared for Ranger wanting to ride the carousel and mini train. That was fun.

What I didn't count on was the in progress rollercoster. For what ever reason, Ranger refused to believe it wasn't ready.

I imagine the puny little heap of metal that was the rollercoster being built looked huge to his mind. It is either extremely small or still sitting in a pile of segments. Given the tiny track circle for the train (our apartment is bigger than that circuit is), I would bet it's the former. But Ranger's concept of a rollercoster comes from his current favorite tv show, Phineas and Ferb. In the very first episode they build a rollercoster, and in a later episode (season two episode 37 I think) they repeat the project as a musical. So even when they are done putting in the coster, I have a feeling he will be disappointed.

The walk to the car was excruciating. I have never see Ranger tantrum to this extent. I tried reason. I tried sitting and listening, holding him while he cried. I tried calling E so he could tell Ranger that I wasn't being mean- the ride wasn't ready. Finally I decided to continue walking.

First he tried screaming and crying so loudly I thought all of Queens could hear him.

Then he dashed in front of me to put the stroller breaks on and use his body weight to drag the stroller to a stop.

He tried hanging back on the ramp while I put his brother in the car. He was still crying and screaming; I got a few looks of "been there done that" from passers by. Ranger was pulling out his usual trump card by saying he had to pee. That almost always works!

Finally I picked him up and carried him the rest of the way to the car.

Putting him in the car seat was like trying to wrangle a tornado. My glasses got kicked off. He screamed and flailed and carried on.

Sometime on the way home (I turned the music up) he switched tactics by saying he forgot to say bye to all the animals.

He continued in this vein all the way to the building, where he tried to keep me from taking the stroller up the two steps.

And when we first got home his tirade continued until suddenly, as though a switch had been flipped, he was calm and wanted to play candy land.

I wasn't particularly angry at him. He is three. He has a cold and is not quite himself.
His brother LB slept through the while thing (city baby- could sleep through sirens).

I am a little annoyed that there is a rollercoster being put up out side the zoo. It's bad enough there is a carousel and mini train for him to beg to go on (and on and on and on). I am not sure I want to take him back without E being there to help.

Sunday, March 24, 2013

Spam spam spamity spam spam

I turned word verification on. I don't get too many actual commenters but I get an increasing amount of spammers.

I debated letting these yahoos do their thing- Blogger does a decent job of filtering them and I find the horrible grammar entertaining. But sometimes they beat the filter and I don't want their links on my posts.

Hey, if you know any teachers who need examples of rotten writing, I have some great samples! I don't mind sharing their attempts when there are no active links.

These two seem to be using the same starter script.

This one could almost be mistaken as not spam.

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