I have a delema.
Here's the situation:
For most of my childhood we spent summers at my grandma's. We became very good friends with the family next door. They had children our age, plus a few older ones we could (I did) look up to. They were good friends every summer we were there, but once we stopped going we didn't stay in touch.
Fast forward to the days of Facebook. You can see where this is going. Their youngest is here in NYC. Wow, we should have coffee, right? But after the invite was extended and turned into an invite for dinner at our place... some things began to worry me.
Here's the part where I tread a VERY careful line. I am about to tell you that this family friend has become uber religious, and while I have no problem with people taking joy, pleasure, peace, comfort, what have you from their belief...I have seen what I believe is good, decent, and tolerant behavior from religious people. I know what it looks like, and I know what it does not look like.
Now to the part that concerns me. Should I tell this friend that I am in an interfaith marriage? If she doesn't know (it's possible), she might be uncomfortable or make my husband uncomfortable at the dinner we're hosting. Or should I assume the better of her. I once made an assumption on how a friend would respond to my interfaith relationship and I was totally wrong and very sorry. (Sorry!)
I guess I am wondering if, while plans are still tentative, I should give her the opportunity to back out. She's attending a missionary school. She was not particularly religious (or not religious) when we were kids.
I have talked this over with E, and he is ok with inviting her for dinner. But I still haven't suggested a date because I'm dithering.